Because I am a Woman

This blog is about sex-positivity, sex-ed, feminism, reproductive justice, birth justice, intersectionality, and activism. Because I am a Woman features articles, news, opinion pieces, digital media, and original information posts on all of the topics and more.

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I wouldn’t necessarily mind people not knowing I’m gay, but I don’t like being thought of as straight — in the same way that I don’t mind people not knowing I’m a writer, but it would be awkward if they assumed I was an extreme skateboarder, because that’s so far removed from the reality of my life. But there is no blank slate where orientation is concerned; we are straight until proven otherwise. And if you’ve never seen how dramatically a conversation can be derailed by a casual admission of homosexuality, let me tell you, it gets awkward.

My Life as an Invisible Queer - Cosmopolitan (via feministlibrarian)

This speaks to me so much, and is probably the most important part, but let me tell you, I like this bit more:

What would be great, I think, is if I could hire some kind of old-timey town crier to precede me into any room I enter, shouting “Lesbian coming! Lesbian coming this way!” and possibly ringing some kind of bell. Then everyone would already know before our interaction commenced, and they could be pleasant or horrible as the spirit moved them, but at least we’d be communicating from a place of honesty and I wouldn’t have to worry about whether I’ll inadvertently reveal myself.

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Why are we fundraising? To support femmes across race, class, gender, ability & region finding space at FemmeCon 2014. If you have the means, please consider donating!  



The Femme Conference is coming! After careful planning and deliberation, the steering committee is proud to announce that we will be heading to ATLANTA (October 24-26) for the 2014 Conference. Now we need your help to get the ball rolling! Donate now to help femmeifest Femme Con 2014!

We need this seed money first to guarantee that the conference can happen: this means first and foremost accessibility (booking affordable and accessible spaces, hiring interpreters, accessible shuttle service, travel and registration scholarships to ensure that everyone including rural, working-class, trans*, Deaf, DeafBlind, DeafDisabled, Hard-of-Hearing Signing femmes, femmes with disabilities, and femmes of color can attend!).

But to make this a reality we need lots of people to pitch in: please donate to support a truly transformative FemmeCon this year!

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is some creep trying to pester you into a relationship? are you ready to shut them out of your life once and for all and look cute as frick doing it? 

here’s a video to help you boot that sucker so far into the friendzone they’ll wish they’d never met you in the first place!


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Feminist Art Friday Feature: Lee Krasner

Abstract Expressionist Lee Krasner is best known for her beautiful and deeply powerful collages and  gestural works. You’ve probably heard of her famous husband, Jackson Pollock, but did you know his wife was another powerful and influential force in the AbEx movement? 

Born in Brooklyn, NY, Krasner began studying art at a young age studying at The Cooper Union at the National Academy for Design. She went on to work for the WPA Federal Art Project before going on to study under Hans Hoffman, another famous abstract expressionist. At a time when the work of women was severely under-valued, Krasner’s presence in the art scene was unique but her career was nonetheless often overshadowed by her husband’s. 

Since her death in 1987, Krasner remains one of the most important artists to have emerged from the New York School and a pioneering force in the Abstract Expressionist movement. As such, she is one of only a handful of women artists to have ever had a retrospective at the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA).

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Fat women are expected to dress in ways that are ostensibly minimizing but that, in reality, are really about us occupying less visual real estate. No bold colors, no stripes, nothing that would ever make us look bigger. It’s not that some of those rules are genuinely about looking slimmer – it’s that we draw less attention to ourselves when we comply with fashion rules. We occupy less space, metaphorically if not physically. We minimize ourselves for the comfort of other people.