1. "

    Anti-femme culture (and feminists aren’t immune to this) thinks the effort put into femme presentation is a waste of time and energy – or, at the very least, time and energy that could have been spent doing something more important. Anti-femme culture thinks ‘pretty’ probably means ‘dumb’ even when struggling against a culture obsessed with an impossibly narrow beauty standard. Anti-femme culture thinks you can’t do math AND do your nails.

    We are humans! We contain multitudes! I do not think it is a problem that teenaged girls are interested in experimenting with presentation via fashion; I think it’s ridiculous and misogynist that they are ONLY encouraged to do that – and that boys don’t have the same freedom of expression.

    "
    The Rotund by Marianne Kirby (via ellielamothe)
  2. thesexuneducated: Yes but the thing is, you don’t GIVE anyone equal rights. You acknowledge the inherent, innate and absolute equal rights THEY ALREADY HAVE. No one has the power to give or take away rights. 

    thesexuneducated:

    Yes but the thing is, you don’t GIVE anyone equal rights. You acknowledge the inherent, innate and absolute equal rights THEY ALREADY HAVE. No one has the power to give or take away rights. 

  3. I love your blog, and I love looking at depictions of stereotypes (such as gender) in movies from the 40s to today. What would be a good career for someone like me?
    Anonymous

    Well there are several relevant fields of study for what you have described. Media Studies, Film Studies, Communications, and Gender Studies all involve going over the kinds of things you described above. 

    However, these are fields of study as opposed to specific careers. If you do even a general google search with any of those terms and “careers” you will find a wealth of information and possibilities to look into further. It is hard to give a true answer to what would be a good career for someone without knowing them and much more about them, which is why I only gave fields of study as opposed to specific jobs. 

  5. kaylita-is-bonita: hmm. 

    kaylita-is-bonita:

    hmm. 

  7. "Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex."

    Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. (via feministhistorian)

    Although I think a lot of this particular message is important, I have read this book and have seen the authors speak…. and it just was not good. Coming to terms with your own body and learning how to orgasm are fantastic. Spewing hetero-normative advice and selling it as anything other than that is not. 

  8. "After a long day, you just want to go home and shove the closest edible thing into your mouth and watch whatever is on Netflix instant. And on weekends, you try to psych yourself up to go out at night but then you realize you are just so damn tired and Netflix instant sounds awesome. And there’s all that driving and like, having to wear pants."

    “TOP TEN SIGNS YOU’RE AN ADULT” by Almie Rose  (via roguemonster)

    I HAVE NEVER HEARD SO MUCH TRUTH IN ONE STATEMENT OF ADULTHOOD. THIS IS MY LIFE. 

  9. tangledupinlace:

    thejazzpoet:

     Kara Walker. She is best known for her room-size tableaux of black cut-paper silhouettes and the explorations of race, gender, sexuality, violence, and identity in her work.

    Learned about her work in my Art Appreciation class. 

    oh man I had SUCH a tense conversation with a white woman at MOMA about Kara’s work that just ended in me yelling, “THINK ABOUT WHY THIS MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE”. I mean, that was the best I could do with the situation

    One of my favorite artists. Wonderful, unique and thought-evoking pieces. 

  10. »  An Abridged History Of The Imagery Of The Human Embryo

    I just found this when looking for sources for my thesis chapter on fetal imagery. This is a great breakdown, and the exhibition it links to has a lot of information. This is a fantastic resource. 

  11. I HAVE DECIDED ON A CONTEST!!

    And will be announcing it early next week. Yay! A chance to get your own Sex Education Care Package! 

  13. "I was warned about so-called feminists. I was told by boyfriends, relatives, professors and other disreputable sources that such women were ambitious, sharp-tongued, a little too smart for their own good. They told me that only women who couldn’t get laid got political. They told me what was perhaps the biggest and most interesting lie of all: that independence and ambition were unattractive in a woman. They also suggested, subtly but seriously, that too much of a sense of humor in a woman made her unattractive (a comment to which comedian Elayne Boosler would reply “Comedy is very, very sexy when it’s done right”). Luckily, during a moment that eclipsed all earlier illumination, I heard a female graduate student repeat a wonderful line from writer Robin Morgan, “We are the women that men have warned us about.” It was as if the little lightbulb that appeared over Bugs Bunny’s head when he got an idea suddenly appeared over mine. It seemed unnerving, actually, that I was gazing reprovingly at all those qualities that I myself possessed. I was certainly ambitious, ready to speak and eager to defend my position on a subject. I liked being a woman, was proud of my femininity and believed myself to be equal to any task set before me by society—at least as well equipped to deal with them as any guy I sat next to in class (he could no more skin a bison than I could and I could probably defend myself on Tenth Avenue more ably than he)."
     Regina Barreca, Ph.D, Snow White Doesn’t Live Here Anymore (via seaofbadstories)
  14. What's a guy to do when he is feeling lonely and just wants another warm body pressing against his? I want casual sex, but I don't wanna be the guy who uses women for sex.
    Anonymous

    There are a lot of women who are interested in casual sex! You are not using someone who is looking for the same things as you are. Despite popular belief, women are just as interested in having sex as men. 

    Try being upfront about what you are looking to get out of a sexual experience and make sure there is consent and things will work out. 

  15. "I see the concept of an abortion doula springing most directly from a confluence of reproductive justice ideology and natural birth philosophies. As reproductive justice activists remind us, the choices most of us are able to make about our reproductive health are greatly affected by our circumstances, which are constrained by socioeconomic status, race, gender, sexuality, nationality, legal status, etc. The Doula Project’s conception of “spectrum of choice” is very much aligned with the reproductive justice movement’s notion that we must support all reproductive health choices, including whether to use contraception, to have an abortion, to decline contraception or sterilization, and to choose to parent."
    So what is an Abortion Doula? | Abortion Gang

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