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is some creep trying to pester you into a relationship? are you ready to shut them out of your life once and for all and look cute as frick doing it? 

here’s a video to help you boot that sucker so far into the friendzone they’ll wish they’d never met you in the first place!


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Feminist Art Friday Feature: Lee Krasner

Abstract Expressionist Lee Krasner is best known for her beautiful and deeply powerful collages and  gestural works. You’ve probably heard of her famous husband, Jackson Pollock, but did you know his wife was another powerful and influential force in the AbEx movement? 

Born in Brooklyn, NY, Krasner began studying art at a young age studying at The Cooper Union at the National Academy for Design. She went on to work for the WPA Federal Art Project before going on to study under Hans Hoffman, another famous abstract expressionist. At a time when the work of women was severely under-valued, Krasner’s presence in the art scene was unique but her career was nonetheless often overshadowed by her husband’s. 

Since her death in 1987, Krasner remains one of the most important artists to have emerged from the New York School and a pioneering force in the Abstract Expressionist movement. As such, she is one of only a handful of women artists to have ever had a retrospective at the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA).

For more information about Lee Krasner and her work, try the following resources:

Fat women are expected to dress in ways that are ostensibly minimizing but that, in reality, are really about us occupying less visual real estate. No bold colors, no stripes, nothing that would ever make us look bigger. It’s not that some of those rules are genuinely about looking slimmer – it’s that we draw less attention to ourselves when we comply with fashion rules. We occupy less space, metaphorically if not physically. We minimize ourselves for the comfort of other people.
In fact, why don't you focus on the positive results of cultural appropriation?? They greatly outweigh the negatives. And you can't escape appropriation, you do it every day, likely unknowingly. In all due respect, get your head out of your ass and actually do something to make the world a better place: buy fair trade, fund third world countries, go vegan or vegetarian, boycott large corps that exploit and abuse third world workers. Your existence does plenty to hurt others.
becauseiamawoman becauseiamawoman Said:




There are no positive results of cultural appropriation. It is harmful. PERIOD. 

More importantly you do not understand this because there is a huge difference between examples of cultural diffusion and cultural appropriation. I do not cherry pick and misuse elements of other cultures. When I do participate in other culture’s traditions, it’s because THEY INVITED ME, not because I felt entitled to their traditions.

Your are being EXTREMELY RUDE AND HATEFUL, ishavemyheadandsometimesmypussy. YOU are the one that needs to get your head out of your ass because you’re talking about something that you literally know NOTHING about. 

And your suggestions are similarly ignorant. Fair trade is FULL of corruption and problems, most of the money never goes to the farmers and in fact can be extremely harmful to local economies. Going vegetarian or vegan does nothing to help the HUMAN BEINGS that pick your vegetables, and prioritizes animals over the people of color that live in unbearable and illegal conditions. This doesn’t even include the imperialistic erasure of traditional foods or the traditions of indigenous people that include hunting. Why don’t you do something and care about the people that are living in ‘third world conditions’ in YOUR country because you want cheap vegetables so you can lord your imperialistic vegetarianism over people like an arrogant asshole.

So why don’t you get off your ass with your pathetic liberal agenda and actually do things to improve the lives of the people around you, the people that pick the vegetables you eat, the people that clean your schools and local businesses instead of concentrating on bullshit consumerism-as-activism which has been shown to be ineffective. 

In which bornabitch-allthedaysandnights slays the complete and total ignorance that is ish4vemyheadandsometimesmypussy's existence.


Where is the money going?" by Dr. Peter Griffiths, Marketing Economist

Fair Trade Will Lead to More Misery for Africa" by John Meadowcraft

The Economics of Fair Trade: A Christian Perspective" by Philip Booth, Editorial and Programme Director at the Institute of Economic Affairs and Professor of Insurance and Risk Management at Cass Business School

The Problem with Fair Trade Coffee" by Colleen Haight, assistant professor at San Jose State University, currently on leave to serve as the economics program officer at the Institute for Humane Studies at George Mason University

Not so fair trade" by Andrew Chambers, The Guardian

Argument Against Cultural Appropriation + Small History Lesson by Tumblr User girljanitor

Collection of Posts on Cultural Appropriation by Trudy (gradientlair), professional, college-educated Writer/Social Critic

Notes on bell hooks, cultural appropriation, and imperialism" by RedClimbingLily

"Cultural Appropriation" excerpt from ‘A Companion to the Anthropology of American Indians’ by Tressa Berman

Ten Definitions of Cultural Appropriation hosted on ‘A Friendly Letter’

"Cultural Appropriation" works hosted on for free download

"The Ethics of Cultural Appropriation" James O. Young, Conrad G. Brunk on Google Books

"Borrowed Power: Essays on Cultural Appropriation" by Bruce H. Ziff, Pratima V. Rao

"Cultural Appropriation and the Arts" by James O. Young (Chapter 1 goes over what Cultural Appropriation is)

"Law, Culture, and Cultural Appropriation" by Sally Engle Merry in the Yale Journal of Law & The Humanities

"Intellectual Property and Cultural Appropriation" by Josh Berson (you’ll need an account or to buy the article)

"Ownership and Appropriation" by Veronica Strang, Mark Busse (you’ll have to buy the article to read the whole thing, but the excerpt gives a small introduction)

"Appropriation in Contemporary Art" by Hayley A. Rower for the Student Pulse International Student Journal 

"The Line between Appropriation and Appreciation" by tumblr user VanillaxCoke

"Harmful Mindsets and Behaviors by Appropriators" by tumblr user Ectinix

“This isn’t a matter of telling people what to wear. It’s a matter of telling people that they don’t wear things in a vacuum and there are many social and historical implications to treating marginalized cultures like costumes. […] Cultural appropriation is itself a real issue because it demonstrates the imbalance of power that still remains between cultures that have been colonized and the ex-colonizers.” From "The Difference Between Cultural Exchange and Cultural Appropriation" on EverdayFeminism

followed up by terarroni rocking it with her amazingly well organized resources! Thank you bunches.


This month is Abortion Wellbeing month, a time in which our community highlights the importance of wellbeing for those who have a personal abortion story. As an Exhale talkline counselor, I had the privilege of listening to many women and men share their stories of deciding to have an abortion and navigating the both expected and unexpected outcomes of their decision following the abortion. In return for this privilege, I offered patience, nonjudgmental acceptance, and a humble curiosity. Being a talkline counselor was very rewarding.

Being a talkline counselor was also not always easy. As a counselor, I worked alone and didn’t have the luxury of turning to a colleague to let off some steam when I’d just finished an especially difficult call, the way I could at work. In addition, it wasn’t uncommon that in explaining to some people what I did as a Pro-Voice talkline counselor, I would be met with judgmental looks and unsolicited opinions at the very mention of the word abortion. My wellbeing was not immune to the highs and lows of being a talkline counselor.

To counter the lows, I recognized there were some simple things I could do to attend to my well-being. My encouragement to callers that they consider ways of engaging in self-care, struck me as equally good advice for myself. As they say, “what’s good for the goose, is good for the gander.” So to the gander - those individuals who step up with openness and humility, offering an ear, a shoulder, or a hug to someone who’s chosen to share their abortion story with them - I would like to share some tips that helped sustain my wellbeing as a counselor.

1.     Engaging in Reflection. I found that reflecting on why I was a talkline counselor helped quell the negatives of being a counselor (e.g., the isolation or fatigue) and kept me focused on the positives (e.g., the gratitude of my callers). Thinking about how some folks’ judgment of me as immoral simply for supporting those who’ve had an abortion filled me with so much empathy for my callers and so much motivation to continue being a support to them.

2.     Taking Deep Breaths. After a call, just taking a moment to breathe deeply and focus on nothing else but my breath could be very helpful. It was a way, after the call, to acknowledge the gravity of my caller’s experience and then respectfully let it go. While I felt a responsibility to make space for my callers’ stories, I knew it wasn’t my responsibility to carry it for them. Taking this deep breath also prepared me to be fully present for the next caller.

3.     Practicing Self-Compassion. Sometimes after a call, I would feel like I’d said something wrong or like I hadn’t been very helpful. It was pretty easy to fall into the rabbit hole of negative self-talk. To pull myself out, I would remind myself that no one asked me to be perfect; they simply asked me to be present. I would remind myself that I was good enough and that all I could do was my best. I would encourage myself to keep learning and to be forgiving of myself if and when I made mistakes.

4.     Creating (Physical) Space. Recently, I was sitting in a supervisor’s office remarking on how I appreciated the aesthetics of her office. She exclaimed that space was everything. “It can really affect your client’s mood. And your mood” she said. I couldn’t agree more. As a talkline counselor, I used to take calls from my bed because it was where I felt most comfortable and stable and it was closest to the window so I could get plenty of sunlight. I understood that the physical space I counseled from had to be a space that allowed me to work most optimally.

So there you have it: my list of tips for helping counselors address their own wellbeing. This list is by no means exhaustive and none of these tips may even fit for you. That’s absolutely fine! My main hope in sharing this with you is that it gets you thinking about what is important for your wellbeing. Talkline counselors, like the callers they support, have a personal abortion story and deserve to spend this month (and every month!) focused on their wellbeing, too.

Written by Ijeoma Ezeofor, a counselor with Exhale