Don’t ever let someone tell you otherwise. The way you experience pleasure is the right way and if someone takes issue with this, then they are the one with the problem. Don’t allow the hegemonic narrative of masculinity/femininity and the dynamics that “should” occur between these two ideologies twist you up in knots about your sexual experiences. If your sex is consenting, safe and bringing you joy then that is all that matters - the rest is just hearsay.
PREACH IT.