Because I am a Woman

I am a graduate student studying in Worcester, MA. I am also a peer sex educator, reproductive justice activist, and feminist.

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Anonymous Asks:

I see a lot of heavier people along with the skinny people on the project unbreakable page. Just goes to show that rape isnt about sexiness, and that the men (judging by the stuff that is said by the signs they're holding up) don't even think of it as rape, use threats to get them not to tell, blame the victim, and have a twisted sense of entitlement. What are your thoughts on what Project Unbreakable says about rape culture and how we can tell rapists not to rape?

becauseiamawoman Said:

First, let me stop you right at the start and let you know that although I am sure you sent this post in with the best of intentions, saying that heavier people aren’t sexy and skinny people are is not okay. Being sexy has absolutely nothing to do with your weight.

I think that Project Unbreakable is very valuable as a safe space for survivors to express themselves and see that they are not alone. It also does a great job of showing how many different kinds of people are impacted by rape. It shows us all that this is a real problem, and it can no longer be ignored.

I do not know what the solution to ending rape culture is. We can start by teaching everyone about giving and asking for consent starting at a very young age. We need to teach children that when they or someone else says no, it needs to be listened to. Since consent does not just apply situations sexual in nature, there is no reason that we shouldn’t be continuously teaching everyone about it all through their lives.

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arsefarter said: think it through, and they wish they had. So maybe part of a solution lies there?
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tombtrash said: Rape isn’t a “sexual” act. It’s an act expressing power physically and mentally over a person. A 90 year old woman was raped a few years ago in my city. It’s not about being hot. It’s about power.
bonesniffer said: People need to understand that 90% of rape committed, is NOT a sex crime. It’s a violent, and horrible crime done out of dominance & power. Most rape, occurs so that the victim is made to feel powerless and weak, demeaned and somehow at fault.
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