Because I am a Woman

In the last couple of months I have gotten a lot of questions about choosing your first sex toy. Since I am now basking in the awesome laziness of summer, I figured it was about time I really got into the specifics for all those looking to try something new. Whether you are looking to invest in a toy that will last a very long time, or just something to ease you into sex toys, this guide should help you nail down exactly what you are looking for!

Below you will find the basic criteria you should keep in mind while shopping for a sex toy. Use it to create a blue-print for your perfect toy. 

Type of Toy (Use, Size, Shape): The first thing you will want to look at when you are deciding on a toy is what kind you want. There are vibrators, g-spot toys, dildos, cock rings, masturbators, and tons of other options. To decide what kind of toy you want, simply think about what you want to use it for. It may help to look through a sex toy website first and see what is out there before deciding on this. This applies to the shape of your toy as well. 

Next, you will want to look into what size toy you want. There is nothing wrong with wanting something big, or small. If it is your first toy ever and you are looking for something to insert, it may help to work your way up, but it really depends on what you enjoy. You may not know what you want, and that is okay too. Do not be afraid of thinking about it for awhile, and maybe starting with something small and low-priced and work your way up until you find something that is exactly what you like best.

Material (What is it made out of? How does that impact the way it can be cleaned? How does it impact the texture of the toy): What a sex toy is made out of is one of the most important things you should consider when purchasing a product. What the toy is made out of will determine if it is body friendly, water proof, hard, soft, textured, etc.  

If a toy is body friendly or not should be a deal breaker. What this basically means is if the toy is made out of something that has harmful toxins in it and if it can be cleaned or not. As a general rule, completely avoid anything that is jelly or has a smell to it. These toys are toxic and cannot be cleaned, which could have serious side effects on your health. Your best bet is generally silicone, glass, metal, or a hard non-porous plastic. To clean, follow the instructions provided with your toy when you buy it. 

As far as texture goes, it may be helpful to actually feel a couple of toys for yourself in a store. However, since that is not always possible you can assume that a hard plastic, metal, or glass toy will be hard. Silicone can go either way (although make sure you do not use a silicone lube with a silicone toy). Read product descriptions and reviews carefully to find a more in depth explanation on the texture of any given toy. 

Power level (If it vibrates, how much? How loud is the toy?): If you have decided that you are looking for a toy that vibrates, be it a cock ring or a traditional vibe, it is very important that you look into the intensity of the toy. Some people like intense vibrations, some people smaller ones, and still others a combination. You can get vibrating toys that are multi-speed AND multi-vibration patterns. The best way to find out what would be the most compatible with you and your body is to put the vibrating toy up to your nose. This should give you a pretty good idea about the way it will feel on your genitals.

While you’re testing the feel of the vibrations, you might also want to listen to the noise level of the toy. If you have roommates or live with your parents, you might want to find a toy that is more discreet. If you live on your own or really do not care what anyone else thinks then just disregard this and get down with whatever toy you thought worked best with your other criteria!

If you are shopping for a toy online, checking for the intensity and noise level may be a little trickier. A lot of very reputable sex toy websites either have this information listed on each toys page, or you can find out how the toy performs in the comment/review sections. For example, at Eden Fantasys this information is listed on a scale from one to five for each and every toy on their entire website. 

Price: This will obviously be a major part of your toy selection. However, I promise there are amazing toys at every price range! My best price advice is to make sure you find something you can afford but do not settle on a toy simply because it is cheap. Hold out for something in your price range that is body friendly and works for you!

Good luck in your search! If you have any questions, feel free to submit them here.