Most numbing creams contain benzocaine, a local anesthetic that is also in some cough drops and topical pain relief creams. Since anal play can sometimes be uncomfortable, I can understand why folks might think that numbing the nerves in the anus is a good idea. Unfortunately, not only does that mean that people aren’t experiencing as much pleasure as they could, it can also lead to injury. Any pain or discomfort you experience during anal play is a message from your body that something needs to change- more lube, a different position, taking a moment to relax into the moment. And when a numbing cream dulls your senses, you might not realize that your body needs something.
If you want to enjoy pleasurable anal play, you need the three key ingredients: relaxation, lubrication, and communication. And that’s not just communication between you and your partner. It’s also communication with your body. When you can pay attention to how it feels and what’s happening, you can make sure that your anal adventures are safe and sexy. What could be better than that?