Because I am a Woman

There is certainly nothing wrong with that! If you don’t want your pictures to be on your phone, I would suggest switching them to a password protected file on your computer. Then bask in the glory of your sexy beautiful self. 

I am white. My aim with this blog is to share with others my passion for social justice, reproductive rights, feminism, and sexual health. 

Also, I am not pro-abortion. I am pro-choice. I do not think people should just get abortions. I believe that every person has the right to make their own reproductive choices and to have the knowledge to be able to make empowered decisions for themselves. 

I actively blog for about an hour or so a day. I follow 311 blogs, and I have close to 3,000 followers. I started blogging when I started working with Planned Parenthood. I was really inspired to get involved with social justice causes (specifically reproductive rights) after working there, and I figured blogging would be a really interesting way to get more active with these things.

We have been together for a little more than three years.

No it does not make you unethical. It is actually an incredibly common fetish. There is no need to suppress as long as you are role playing in a legal and consensual way with someone who supports and understands what is going on. I would advise using a safe word in your play scenarios as well. As far as fantasies go, those are between you and yourself. You are free to be turned on by whatever floats your boat.

I think that pain is a legitimate experience and so is weakness. None of us are perfect, and in truth we all have weakness and that cannot be helped. We can try to make ourselves better, but that does not necessarily happen through a painful experience. However, on the other side painful experiences can make you stronger person.

I have never heard of it, and unfortunately I do not have sound on the computer I am currently using. Sorry!

I can think of other kinds of Americans (POC, different genders, socioeconomic classes, etc), but I really cannot think of anyone off of the top of my head who is not American. It definitely is not something I have thought that much about, but something that I will continue to look for in the future.

Maybe my followers can help… can you all think of anything that this person and myself could benefit from?

I have US Family Health through the military which is why mine was not costly. If you are low-income and looking for an affordable way to get an IUD I would definitely suggest you try Planned Parenthood. Many of my closest friends received theirs there for free/low-cost. Good luck!

You should wash your penis. This can really be done with just warm water, and if you prefer, a mild soap. If you do use soap make sure you rinse it all off.  I would shy away from using conditioner, as that is not actually washing it. You also wouldn’t want to risk getting it inside of the urethra which could very easily cause infections. If you are circumcised you should make sure to pull back the foreskin and wash under there too. 

If you are looking for something to make masturbation easier/your penis smoother you might want to consider getting a lubrication designed specifically for this purpose. Some good options are this Pleasure Cream which has very body-friendly ingredients or  the very popular Boy Butter. Since these are oil based they are great for masturbating with a penis, and should leave your genitals feeling very smooth. However, they should not be used with a latex condom.

Dear anon,

I am not sure what you are trying to say here. I think you might be trying to tell me that rape is usually about sex. Again, it is largely about power and control not about sex. Next time you try to prove a point, please do not provide me with a page from yahoo answers. To make it worse, the majority of people who answered this question, including some survivors, disagreed with the original post.

**Trigger Warning**

I disagree with it. Rape culture may be related to an unwillingness to confront sexual realities and a culture that also glorifies violence, but a more accurate definition would be something along the lines of a culture where sexual assault and rape are not only common, but excused, accepted, and/or tolerated by the practices and norms of the culture. All of these things are definitly connected, and rape culture may not actually be the best term to use (although I cannot think of a better term), but I definitely do not believe that rape is a side effect of not confronting sexual realities. That would also mean that rape is largely about sex, and it very often is not. 

That is just completely false anon, and might I say also pretty cowardly to just send this anonymously instead of being willing to have a real conversation about this.

The reason that not everyone who has an abortion is a woman is because there are very big differences between sex and gender. I think this info graphic, although not perfect by any means, may be of help in illustrating the differences between the two.

As you may have gathered from the above illustration, you can present and identify as a woman without having the sex organs most often associated with that identity. You can be a woman and not have a vagina. You can be a man and have a vagina. All identities are valid. Since having a penis or vagina does not necessarily play into how you identify, you can most definitely be a man and have an abortion.

Recognizing this and speaking about it is incredibly important. Otherwise, we risk erasing the experiences of all of these people. This is why, you will often see on this blog the term “not everyone who has an abortion is a woman”. 

Why? Are you trying to tell me you do not have a Facebook or Twitter with your name on it? Your last name is all over the internet whether you attach it to a random untagged blog post or not.

Excuse me, I worked really really hard and earned those grades. Im a double major, and for your information it is not an easy major. You dont know anything about me. Do you get yourself off by being a rude jack ass? Now kindly hit unfollow and get the hell off of my blog.

Not to mention, you had to post this on anon. Coward much?

First, let me stop you right at the start and let you know that although I am sure you sent this post in with the best of intentions, saying that heavier people aren’t sexy and skinny people are is not okay. Being sexy has absolutely nothing to do with your weight. 

I think that Project Unbreakable is very valuable as a safe space for survivors to express themselves and see that they are not alone. It also does a great job of showing how many different kinds of people are impacted by rape. It shows us all that this is a real problem, and it can no longer be ignored. 

I do not know what the solution to ending rape culture is. We can start by teaching everyone about giving and asking for consent starting at a very young age. We need to teach children that when they or someone else says no, it needs to be listened to. Since consent does not just apply situations sexual in nature, there is no reason that we shouldn’t be continuously teaching everyone about it all through their lives.