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Most numbing creams contain benzocaine, a local anesthetic that is also in some cough drops and topical pain relief creams. Since anal play can sometimes be uncomfortable, I can understand why folks might think that numbing the nerves in the anus is a good idea. Unfortunately, not only does that mean that people aren’t experiencing as much pleasure as they could, it can also lead to injury. Any pain or discomfort you experience during anal play is a message from your body that something needs to change- more lube, a different position, taking a moment to relax into the moment. And when a numbing cream dulls your senses, you might not realize that your body needs something.
If you want to enjoy pleasurable anal play, you need the three key ingredients: relaxation, lubrication, and communication. And that’s not just communication between you and your partner. It’s also communication with your body. When you can pay attention to how it feels and what’s happening, you can make sure that your anal adventures are safe and sexy. What could be better than that?
How to video on the proper use of a recpetive or
femaleinternal condom for use during anal sex!
(via fuckyeahsexeducation)
The Early to Bed Awards for Best Lubes!
Best Lube for Sensitive Skin: Sliquid H2O. With only four ingredients, it is our simplest, most hypoallergenic lube. It is gentle, glycerin and paraben-free, super long-lasting, odorless, and tasteless! What’s not to love?
Best Anal Lube: Maximus! Some people swear by silicone lubes, but we love Maximus for its crazy thickness, which provides your butt with a cushion against injury. It is also long-lasting, even for a water-based lube!
Best Flavored Lube: Swede Fruity Love! It comes in subtle Blueberry and Vanilla Cinnamon flavors. It adds a nice accent of sweetness without being too cloying. Very long-lasting, this flavored lube is also pH-balanced (and paraben-free) so as to be gentle on even the most sensitive bits.
Best Waterproof Lube: Uberlube! Hands down, silicone is the funnest. This silicone lube latex compatible and just will not quit! Use it in the bedroom or in the bath, it takes a licking and keeps on ticking. Just keep it away from those silicone toys, okay? Uberlube is even made locally here in Chicago! Please note that we do not recommend using any Silicone lubes with silicone or cyberskin toys.
Best Organic Vegan Lube: Sliquid Organics. Want to treat your naughty bits AND the planet well? Try Sliquid Organics! Choose between Regular (100% water-based), Silk (mostly water-based but with 12% silicone to make it slipperier) and Sensation (warms up with friction), all with an added boost of organic hibiscus, flax, rose, and sunflower seed extracts.
Best All-Around Lube: It’s a tie! Slippery Stuff and Liquid Silk both win the prize! Both are glycerin-free and long-lasting. Slippery Stuff is a nice thick gel that stays where you want it and is easy on the wallet. Liquid Silk has a luxurious silky texture that never gets sticky.
There are no losers here, so if you just can’t decide, try one of our lube samplers and you get a little taste of our favorites!
