There are a couple of things that could be at issue here. I’d definitely recommend trying to reinsert by folding it with your preferred method of cup folding and using a little bit of water-based lube (or even just a bit of water if you don’t have any lube handy).
If it still feels like it is sitting a little low, you may just want to trim the stem a bit. For many people, the stem is simply too long to be compatible with their bodies— but this is an easy fix! Just trim off as much as you need to with a pair of scissors being sure not to cut into the actual cup itself and to leave enough of it so you can still grab the cup and get it out. You can learn more about if you should trim the stem of your menstrual cup and how to do so via Lunette.
Of course! They’re a bit more of a hassle since you have to clean them, but I was able to make it work even when I was living with four roommates. They’re also a lot more comfortable (and environmentally friendly!) in my opinion.
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When I was using my cup I’d occasionally use a toothpick to clear out the holes. Maybe give that a shot?
EDIT [Noteworthy advice from the comments]: the-femme-feminist said: Fill the cup with water, put one hand over the top of the cup to create a seal and with your other hand squeeze the cup so water shoots out the little holes, this will clear them for you
Hmm… I have a couple of thoughts here. The first is the seal—- are you sure you’re creating one? Make sure the holes around the cup are clear and that you’ve twisted the cup once you’ve inserted it! Next, is it possible it just needs to be dumped more often? Depending on your flow, it could just be getting too full.
Anybody else have any ideas here?
EDIT: I’ve been thinking on this, and now I’m also wondering if maybe you’re using the wrong size cup for your body. Definitely a possibility!
Inserting a cup shouldn’t be much more uncomfortable than using a tampon. However, if you aren’t comfortable reaching into your vagina to insert and pull it out, this is probably not the best option for you.
Not having had penetrative sex doesn’t impact you ability to use a cup, in fact many menstrual cups come in smaller sizes for those who haven’t had penetrative sex or who just haven’t had children. If you end up deciding to purchase one, shop around for different sizes from different brands, (for example many people report that even the DivaCup’s smaller size runs larger than other cups).
Lunette also has some great tips for teens/people who haven’t had penetrative sex which include instructions on inserting a cup for the first time:
Tips for first time insertion
- Relax and take your time: Choose alone time when you can focus without distractions or interruptions. Perhaps after a warm bath when you are relaxed. If you are too nervous, the vaginal muscles will tighten, making it uncomfortable, if not impossible, for successful insertion.
- Get Acquainted with yourself: It is always a good idea to know your own body. Take some time to locate the vaginal opening and even insert a finger to locate your cervix. It feels exactly like the tip of your nose. Knowing where your cervix is will help you to position the cup properly and not insert it too high.
- Practice during your period: The vagina is more flexible and the blood works as a lubricant. OR …
- Take a “dry run” before your period: You might be more comfortable practicing before your period if you feel squeamish about touching blood. In this case, use water as a lubricant.
- Try different folds that accentuate the insertion point: Most women use the typical C-fold. However, there are many ways to fold a Lunette. The video here will show you nine different folds.
- Proper insertion direction: Be aware that the direction of insertion needs to be aimed towards the small of your back — not straight up.
- Be patient: Know that it may take several times before you are successful. If you begin without the expectation of perfect insertion, you are more likely to be relaxed and pleasantly surprised when success happens.
- Assess the stem: Once inserted, you will need to decide whether or not to keep the stem. If it protrudes, it will be uncomfortable. In this case, you likely won’t need the stem and can trim it off. However, if not, you may need it to assist with removal.
I haven’t bought off Amazon, but I know others who have and hear good things. These aren’t discounted brands or anything— these are the same cups you’ll find anywhere else just at a lower price.
Cups can last years, but it will change from brand-to-brand and depends on how you use it and how you care for your cup.
You can read some our reviews/features of various kinds of menstrual cups here:
These reviews include an explanation of insertion:
Many reviews liken insertion of the DivaCup to putting in a tampon, but that wasn’t something I had much experience with. However, it turned out to be even easier than I expected.To insert it, you simply fold the cup ( I used the“push down” fold, but many users fold theirs into a “C” shape,) insert it, and twist it so that it creates a seal. To take it out, you just pull down on the stem and base of the cup. It is really that easy!
You can also keep your cup in overnight. For more information, check out our menstrual cups tag.
Changes in your period are normal, and can happen due to any number of things including stress, life changes, and diet changes. That being said, if you notice something that seems out of the ordinary for you and your body, you may want to consult your doctor. I wouldn’t worry too much at this point, but you’re better than sorry when it comes to your health.