Because I am a Woman
This blog is about sex-positivity, sex-ed, feminism, reproductive rights and activism.
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Anonymous Asks:
becauseiamawoman Said:
That is just completely false anon, and might I say also pretty cowardly to just send this anonymously instead of being willing to have a real conversation about this.
The reason that not everyone who has an abortion is a woman is because there are very big differences between sex and gender. I think this info graphic, although not perfect by any means, may be of help in illustrating the differences between the two.
As you may have gathered from the above illustration, you can present and identify as a woman without having the sex organs most often associated with that identity. You can be a woman and not have a vagina. You can be a man and have a vagina. All identities are valid. Since having a penis or vagina does not necessarily play into how you identify, you can most definitely be a man and have an abortion.
Recognizing this and speaking about it is incredibly important. Otherwise, we risk erasing the experiences of all of these people. This is why, you will often see on this blog the term “not everyone who has an abortion is a woman”.
They had us at the mention of “naked”—and then they brought up birth control! (Swoon.)
This is an awesome article.
Education is key - knowledge is power. If you learn that you have an STD or STI, there are some steps you should take for your own health and the health of your partner(s). Click HERE for more.
We’re always really surprised by the massive amount of misinformation floating around about masturbation. Crazy-false urban legends about all the bad stuff that will happen to you if you touch yourself kind of transcend every generation and culture. You’ll go blind, you’ll get acne, you’ll grow hair on the palms of your hands (gross).
And since most adults (and plenty of young people) masturbate, it’s not even like any of this negative propaganda is keeping masturbators down.
Here’s the thing about masturbation: lots of totally smart, savvy folks believe that, for one reason or another, masturbation is dirty, or dangerous, or unhealthy, or otherwise not good. And it’s just plain not true – masturbation has no health risks.
So we’re thinking about starting a collection of the wackiest and most totally untrue myths about masturbation. So far our favorite is the mistaken idea that masturbating too much will somehow “ruin you” for sex. As if learning what you like and how to have an orgasm won’t make you a smarter sexual partner!?! Have any silly masturbation falsehoods to contribute? Reblog and add yours!
I know I geek out about this a lot, but this is one of the reasons why I believe we are living in the best time for feminists. Each and every one of us can make so much change. we have the ability… and the resources! This post discusses two of my favorite things” online activism and Planned Parenthood. Enjoy!
Good News/Bad News of the day
Good news: The Violence Against Women Act was passed yesterday! YAY!
Bad News: All thirty-one of the “nay” votes were Republican men.
Read about this: 31 GOP Men Don’t Think Domestic Abuse Victims Deserve Protection
Well said. (via bedsider)
Barb Stuckey, “Why Eating Should Be More Like Sex.” (Huffington Post)
And our second-favorite quote from the article:
Sex is, of course, a tactile experience. Yet our enjoyment of it comes from the combination of visual, sound, smell and taste inputs. If you have trouble imagining how our eyes impact our sensuality, all you have to do is consider that porn accounts for 30% of all internet traffic. We use visual images to stimulate ourselves. Having sex in the dark employs only 80% of our sensory apparatus. Maybe that’s why my earliest experiences were so unsatisfying.
We similarly stimulate ourselves with food. After watching a gorgeous, natural light-kissed cookbook video eight times in one day, I realized my behavior was veering dangerously close to a food porn addiction. You cookbook readers out there hanging your heads in shame know exactly what I’m talking about. Yet we also cheat ourselves with food. We eat while watching TV, which is somewhat worse than eating in the dark (which I’ve done and write about in my book) because it occupies the brain as well as the eyes. True food appreciation requires undistracted use of the brain in addition to all five of the senses.
Tuesday resolution: Lights on for sex, TV off for meals. Advice to live by.
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I’m sure you heard about the #teamiPhone vs. #teamAndroid Instagram beef last week. Can’t we all just get along, guys? Thank goodness for the wonderful world of birth control—it offers something for everyone! Hopefully you’ve already checked out and taken advantage of Bedsider’s custom…
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Anonymous Asks:
becauseiamawoman Said:
This will impact your sex life as much as you let it. If you are with a partner and do not wish to be touched there to avoid the tickling feeling, try telling your partner. They should respect your wishes enough to avoid it. If you do like the feeling, the ask your partner to touch there. Either way, communication with whoever you are with is key to a good experience. Otherwise, I do not see it being a problem.
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