Using gender neutral language as a default certainly is not easy. Unfortunately using gendered terms and pronouns is so ingrained in most of us by the culture we live in that breaking out of that mold seems incredibly difficult. I still catch myself making assumptions when answering questions and writing here on Tumblr, and even more often when speaking to people face to face. It is difficult to do but in order to create safe spaces, accept everyone for who they are, and break out of thinking about certain causes as “womens issues” or “mens issues”, making this change is very important.
I broke out of using gendered language on Tumblr by doing a lot of editing of my posts. Before I post anything that is purely of my own content (asks, original posts, etc) I go through it to make sure that I haven’t made any assumptions about anybody. If I am responding to a question where someone names their pronouns, then I will use their pronouns. However, most of the time I stick to using gender neutral terms like “you” or “they” which are pretty easy to substitute in. Instead of saying “men” or “women” I often say “people”. I try really hard, but that does not mean that I never make mistakes.
I think that the most important thing you can do is to be open to criticism when you are actively trying to change over to using gender neutral terms. You will make mistakes, and other people will point them out. Asking other people to let you know when you’ve made a mistake, taking the criticism, apologizing for your mistake, and learning from the mistake all make a really big difference in the grand scope of things.
I hope you never feel intimidated coming to me and asking questions. I do not expect people to format their questions in any specific manner, and I will not attack you if you do not use gender neutral terms. This is a safe space, all I ask is that you observe it as such.
For those of you who haven’t read it, you can find my post on using gender neutral language here.
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Hey everyone! I’ve been helping out with this research and advocacy project called Sexual Health Rankings™. Using data from the Guttmacher Institute, the CDC, Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, the HRC, and much, much more, it is the most complete measure of Americans’ sexual health ever created, and the first state-by-state comparison of overall sexual health.
Similar to how students receive report cards to determine their progress and their progress in relation to their peers, thus allowing their educators to determine where there are deficits and where there are successes, Sexual Health Rankings™ ranks each state (and the District of Columbia) on a composite of 26 indicators (from access to abortion and marriage equality to STI rates). This valuable tool can be used by educators and policy makers as a catalyst for positive change.
I encourage you all to check it out! There is an interactive map that allows you to examine the data on a national and individual state level. There is also a discussion forum for users to discuss the project (whether it’s things they’ve learned, ways they plan on using the data, how this data could be used, or areas for improvement). There is an advocacy page full of resources for folks looking for more info on various topics.
Full url: http://sexualhealthrankings.com