Because I am a Woman
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talking about it as “losing your virginity” when you have sex the first time implies that we experience some kind of loss, when we don’t. having sex doesn’t change a person or make them less than the person they were before. that’s some sex negative bs.
(from Sex+: Losing Your Virginity!?)
Human societies — all human societies — organize and control social behaviors, and all sexual behavior between humans is also social behavior. Both “virgin” and “heterosexual” are ideological tools that are useful in organizing and controlling particular kinds of sexual behavior and helping to shape social reality.
Different cultures and different eras within a single culture may prioritize different aspects of social behavior at given times, and seek to shape and control them in different ways, but there are always conceptual and ideological tools that are used to do that. ”Virgin” and “heterosexual” are two very powerful tools of this type, and their power is evident in, among other things, the degree to which they go unquestioned.
